In This Latest News …
UPDATE: 2/22/2024 (5:55PM – Pacific Time)
The drama with the leasing office continues 🤦🏻♀️
At this point, it’s become nearly comical. The leasing office wants me to talk to resident services who wants me to talk to the leasing office 🤔😒
This basically started with the “inspection” on 2/7, which was REALLY “JUST A PEEK” to see a work area for “BLINDS” … just a “PEEK” 👀
To recap (so y’all don’t have to scroll down an rehash this …):
Back in 2010, we had to give up a storage unit, and thus we had stuff in our unit. As my mom was working at the time, she was always “getting to” it. After retirement, there was the cancer deal, then she had a clean bill of health.
As anyone who has been around someone with mental illness, sometimes people get overwhelmed and can’t function – that is my mom. It got worse over the pandemic, then in 2022 when the office wasn’t going to renew the lease.
After that – health issues.
And, since I then became her caregiver – I tend to get exhausted and run out of hours. I too have health conditions, and since my hospital stay … I’ve literally lived exhausted. Add in sporadic sleep because mom wakes frequently to use the toilet … it’s exhausting.
That brings me to a December 2023 inspection in which the issue of our “stuff” came up. Now, I’ll admit – there is a LOT of clutter – some mail, Amazon packaging. So, I will take responsibility there, and don’t mind rectifying that. But, my boxes of belongings – some packed due to the failed 2022 move were an issue and she wanted them removed (um, no money for storage, so I’d have to throw my stuff away – that’s not flying here). As of note – nothing in the law or lease prohibits me from having boxes in my unit – only that it needs to be clean, trash out weekly, no “debris”. That’s it. Even the law says as clean as possible.
Forward to 2/7 – as a new management team took over last month, the leasing agent called about the blinds. I said it wasn’t a good time and really asked for a “target” date as I still had my tree up (still do). After that, the manager called and kept INSISTING on coming over.
I was put into the position of feeling like I couldn’t refuse.
That “PEEK” turned into her wanting to see my bedroom, then asking about the area for the blinds (my bedroom and living) to be repaired. I said – for practical reasons, March. That was too late for her, I asked for a date and got “I’ll get back to you”. We agreed only the living room and master bedroom were of concern as they could be seen from the street. So, with a date in mind, I could just move the stuff in my room; the living room –just take down my Christmas display and tree.
She insisted she would “help” us (as I explained the situation to her) and would coordinate with maintenance about when the work was to be done. I didn’t want it to conflict with my mother’s wound care. The manager assured me the “stuff” wasn’t a problem (that I was “fine”) as they were not going to work in that area – only the living room and the master bedroom (easy areas for me to tend to with notice). She assured me she and maintenance would work with me in clearing the area ONLY FOR THE BLIND REPAIRS. She stated she’d get back to me, and not to stress or worry about it as I was visibly stressed out.
Yeah – BIG FAT HAIRY LIE that was. On 2/16, she forwarded an email from their Resident Services regarding a “claim” – and that was for me to contact the office to arrange an agreement to bring it under compliance (that’s it – quite vague). I called the office, nope – had to contact resident services.
Which – I did. And, I brought up how the manager violated the state law and the lease. NEVADA STATE LAW REQUIRES 24-HOUR NOTICE FOR ENTRY (unless it is an emergency, blinds are not). Also the lease stipulates 24-HOUR WRITTEN NOTICE. Not done at all.
Resident services got back to me, and again told me I had to talk with the office, but stated that management agreed April was fair (April 2024 – no exact date) to allow me to comply. They agreed I didn’t have to throw my stuff away or get a storage unit. But, how I brought it up to compliance was “up to me”. However, there was no mention of “what” exactly they meant. I mean, we have been her 16 years so some things are not going to be “sparkly” clean.
I did write BACK to resident services to tell them I never said “April”, and incidentally March was ONLY for the living room and my bedroom for the blinds.
I also asked them how they were going to remedy us for the violation.
I also emailed the office and stated 4/30/2024 was agreeable. Me NOT giving up my “boxes” of stuff was non-negotiable. I asked what the remedy was going to be for violating the law and the lease.
Another thing I brought up – if the lease isn’t going to be renewed, why not wait until then? It ends 7/31/2024. I mean it makes sense. Am I right? 🤷🏻♀️
Nope. They just can’t be that reasonable.
TWO DAYS after I emailed the office, the manager FINALLY got back to me. She had no answer for the lease except the line of “our standard practice is to send out offers 75-100 days before the expiration of the lease”. That’d be, at the soonest, around April 15th.
As far as my “request” and the implications of a possible violation she “escalated” it BACK to resident services for further review and response. As far as what “possible violation” – I don’t know if it was because I said I would be keeping my stuff, or them not giving proper notice. And, she KNOWS she didn’t give proper notice.
As of note, I sent the “town home management specific” email to BOTH the manager and the resident services.
NOW …
I’ve got to release some stuff I hadn’t wanted to. Most of it might seem silly, but – it isn’t … and it pertains to the reason for yesterday’s status.
Most of y’all know I spent 10 days in Sunrise Hospital’s burn care unit and in isolation in August 2023.
What y’all might have forgotten – I had cellulitis, MRSA, and sepsis. That “sore” … (yes, it’s graphic) … 🫣
PLEASE NOTE THE WARNING ABOUT THE PHOTOS
This is how bad it was just “hours” before I went ...
That is the result of Hidradenitis Suppurativa (HS) – it is a lifelong, chronic condition. These “sores” go from 0-60 in about two seconds. I have a more moderate form of it.
The one in August 2023 … this was the progression:
Since being released from the hospital, starting 9/29/2023 to roughly the end of December/early January, I’ve had to undergo 34 days of antibiotics off and on.
Here’s the kicker – as of yesterday (2/16), I’m on another 10-day regimen (to bring it up to 44 days). I had a flare-up that started Tuesday (7:07pm):
Yesterday (2/16), I used Now Clinic to have a virtual visit with a Nurse Practitioner who was horrified by it and agreed it not only looked painful but absolutely needed antibiotics – THAT DAY.
This isn’t curable. There is no known cause. And, even if I were to engage in some lifestyle changes – there is NO guarantee it would go away. HS (hidradenitis suppurativa) treatments aren’t one-size-fits-all. My doctor is more concerned about the MRSA, as well as a sepsis relapse.
These “bumps” are EXTREMELY painful. And, although it is inflammation - antibiotic pills are used to treat HS because bacteria on the skin or in the HS lesions can flood into the inflammation. Bacteria is not the only reason HS happens – it’s also the immune system. Antibiotics can be used for a week or two, or months at a time. My doctor said I will likely be on antibiotics ... the rest of my life.
As far as other treatments – my doctor is not in favor of them. I’ve also had to buy a specific type of body wash (Dove Sensitive). The Nurse Practitioner asked what I was bathing in. Gave me a thumbs up and told me to continue it. I can only use non-scented lotions (Lubriderm) has been good.
In addition, this condition can cause joint pain and fatigue – just what I need with a folate deficiency and clinical hypothyroidism – two problems that can cause fatigue.
I also have eczema. And, it’s pretty bad as well – my fingers being the worst, and when it flares up – my fingers are difficult to use. They’ve been so bad they’ve literally “cracked” open in certain places. I’m also going to have to get some fingerless gloves for night (and likely) day use. I have some prescription ointments for that. I also forgot the debilitating migraines and high blood pressure.
Add in the additional task of taking care of my mother, and now stressing over my home environment – my nerves and patience are on overload.
The home environment?
In December 2023 – just before Christmas – we had an inspection, which was NOT what they claimed it was for. There was the issue of our stuff – but the person said she’d get back to me about help us with a solution – never did (honestly, there should be a law against that “I’ll get back to you” and the person never does).
Had Christmas, and yes – my tree is still partially up (as of today – 2/17). Again, read about my health issues. Also, keep in mind I have days where I run errands – food shopping, getting prescriptions, getting freebies, those things. Sometimes, I do run out of hours because I NEED sleep.
On 2/7 (ten days ago) – get a call from a leasing agent. It’s about the “blinds” (warped and yellow - so they’re “unsightly”). She wants to know when they can come in and replace them. Um … not a good time. There’s mom’s wound care, my health, the stuff I need to do with running the household, and book obligations (some I agreed to LONG before management had a change, crisis, or a fart-crossways).
I asked when they wanted to do it – she didn’t know, would have to “check”. About 11 minutes, later the manager calls. She wants to come over (with a maintenance) worker to inspect the “work area” for a few minutes making me feel like I was not allowed to refuse. She kept insisting it was only to “peek” in, not even walk in. Just a “peek” (right … sure …).
BEFORE I CONTINUE – NEVADA STATE LAW REQUIRES 24-HOUR NOTICE FOR ENTRY (unless it is an emergency, blinds are not); definitely for an “inspection”.
After wearing me down, the manager and the leasing agent entered the unit. The manager claimed it was ONLY FOR THE BLINDS to see what could be done (a little “peek”) – perhaps a patch job and then later the entire replacement. We agreed only the living room and master bedroom were of concern as they could be seen from the street.
She insisted she would “help” us (as I explained the situation to her) and would coordinate with maintenance about when the work was to be done. I didn’t want it to conflict with my mother’s wound care as the wound care cannot be scheduled in advance, the nurse calls the same day to see her. The manager assured me the “stuff” wasn’t a problem (that I was “fine”) as they were not going to work in that area – only the living room and the master bedroom (easy areas for me to tend to with notice). She assured me she and maintenance would work with me in clearing the area ONLY FOR THE BLIND REPAIRS. She stated she’d get back to me, and not to stress or worry about it.
Yesterday – 2/16, at 5:05pm (just before the office closes and she leaves) – I get an email from her, with an attached letter from the company’s “resident services team” regarding the 2/7 inspection (which, again was NOT a proper inspection due to lack of notice); and you guessed it – our stuff is a concern. They want ME to contact the office by Monday (gotta love their “notice”). I called the office, manager had left, and was told to contact this resident services team. (Um, sure, right ... don’t stress or worry)
I really don’t know who I’m supposed to talk to. But, I did send a reply to this “resident services team”.
If y’all have been with me since 2022 – here’s a recap:
3/2022 – Mom’s back is an issue, she is put into a brace; can’t do much, but still very mobile
4/2022 – Notice given they are not renewing lease, fundraising efforts begin; stress runs high
5/2022 – Fundraising efforts not working (did get a bit for supplies), local media a bust, reaching out to social workers, no one wants to help, spend time packing and crying
6/2022 – Mom goes to ER for her anxiety, given some medication, immediately has mobility issue (several falls, sent to a different ER), released home with a walker; we get to stay with a $100 increase in rent. Packing stops, have to help mom with bathing and dressing (lower half)
9/2022 – Mom’s mobility severely declines, hospital, skilled nursing. No improvement; can no longer use stairs or even “curb steps”
10/2022 – Release from skilled nursing, back to hospital, surgery, mom is in worse shape physically and mentally, heads to physical rehab
11/2022 – Just before Thanksgiving mom is released, heads to spine doctor, has to go back to hospital; after Thanksgiving – skilled nursing
12/2022 – Sign out of skilled nursing facility due to an issue, taken to doctor, 10 days later – taken to hospital for a wound issue; placed on wound vac
2/2023 – Skilled nursing again, no improvement
3/2023 – Day of release from skilled nursing – back to hospital, MRSA in surgical wound (not the only problem with wound), wound cleared up, back to another skilled nursing facility
4/2023 – Released from skilled nursing to home
8/2023 – Back to hospital, surgery for different wounds, skilled nursing, released from SNF, on home-health for wound care 7x per week
11/2023
– Wound care to 3x per week
12/2023 – (1-2 weeks before Christmas) – Inspection, issue with “stuff”, would get back to me (never did)
Which brings me to now.
So, this has not been the best two-year period when it comes to taking care of the house (or me). I’ve spent days in bed beyond exhausted; I’ve spent nights crying; I’ve spent nights just wanting it all to be over.
And, since my own 10-day stint with surgery, and the resulting problems – I’m barely getting back on my own feet while trying to help mom “exist”.
I’ve also got to worry about a car that has a bald tire, another tire is losing 10 PSI per day (thank goodness for my air compressor). Tires cost $200/each, and it needs additional mechanical work.
Right now – I’ve got 2-3 gallons of gas until next weekend; it needs an oil change something bad as well. I’m literally stressed out to the max. I cannot take another bad thing. I can’t. I’m literally about to drop or stroke out.
What am I going to do? I don’t know. I have no idea. But, and please excuse this ... I can see why some people end it. It’s the only way to get the bad stuff to stop. It really is. In some cases, things don’t get better. They do get worse though.
For now, I have to wait until Monday. But, from there?
I just want this all over. I am so tired of the uncertainty and the upheaval. I really am.
And, as I’ve stated before, we don’t qualify for any kind of social assistance. I’ve rehashed this since April 2022. Our financial situation hasn’t changed. Many organizations here do not cater to our needs. I’ve tried GoFundMe with no success, but right now ... that may be all that keeps us from losing everything ... including our sanity.
Even if I’m on the streets (or living out of my car), at least a storage unit will keep my stuff (furniture, clothing, dishes, books, photos, keepsakes) safe.
If you know anyone in the Las Vegas/Henderson area that has a house to rent (for around $1200-$1500), can help out, has a HUGE media reach ... more now than ever ... we need it.
Marie
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